Ok guys we’re all adults here, I want to talk about kissing. In particular, your very FIRST kiss as a married couple.

Let me set the ceremony scene, I say some stuff to you, you say some stuff to each other and then answer the stuff I ask you and then I say ok you may kiss.

From my experience and creepy observation (jokes!) there are good ways to go about your first kiss and not so good ways.

So here are some pointers to achieving the perfect first kiss:

1- Decide without orchestrating.

Now what I mean but this is I think you and your partner should have that convo of ok what type of kiss are we going to do. If you are choosing to do a small pursed lips kiss ok, that’s fine, if you are choosing to go all out in a pash, well that’s fine too, I mean I wouldn’t totally advise doing that but each to their own.  And while you’re at it, have a little practise (why not, its fun) so you each know what type of kiss you’re going for. Then leave it alone, do not over-plan or over-think the first kiss  because you can totally tell!

2 – Hold the kiss for a bit longer than you think you should

… why? Because most of the time there is a photographer there who you have paid good money for and this is one of the prime photo opportunities. If you kiss in a micro second they won’t get the best and I will make you kiss again to appease the photographer and make sure they get the best for you.  Hold for 3 seconds.

3 – Don’t surprise your spouse unless you know for a fact they’d be into it.

This mainly applies to dipping… do not dip your partner unless you know they would be into it and go along with it and you won’t make them stumble and fall or perhaps dislodge something from their outfit…. or don’t grab their face and passionately kiss them if they’re not expecting it and grandma Betty’s watching from the front row… just don’t surprise them unless they’d be up for it, trust me.

4 – Fresh breath is a must.

I always offer my bridal parties mints and tissues, its just what I do. Whether you have bad breath or your mouth is dry or one of the bridal party have a tickle in their throat – we must be shut that the heck down immediately. Mints are a must. You want your first kiss to be fresh and minty!

5 – Shelve your shy/embarrassed/awkward feelings to being ‘on show’ for a few minutes

I totally get that kissing in front of a group of people and them taking photos of it is not a normal occurrence (thank goodness!). when it comes time for the kiss please trust me when I say that all those other people are barely there, you are in a bubble with your partner and nothing else matters. 

And that’s it, the super simple steps to your perfect first kiss.  

The first of what feels like a zillion kisses on your wedding day. Everybody will make you kiss, no advice, just fact. Enjoy!